By John F. Di Leo -
Reflections on the May 12, 2015 Amtrak train crash in Philadelphia...
First Day at School
You’re a gym teacher at a new school, in charge of 30 kids in a gym, on your first day at work. You can’t keep your eye on all of them at once. While you were helping a couple of kids improve their free throws at one end, you hear a shout at the other end of the gym; one kid knocked another down.
Scenario 1: You don’t know either kid at all, so you objectively ask the kids to all explain what happened. You wind up giving detention to the kid who knocked down the other one; there was no excuse for escalating their disagreement into violence.
Scenario 2: You don’t know the kid who got knocked down, but the guilty party is your son. You lecture him, but don’t give detention. You know him, after all, he had to have a reason. The other kid must’ve shoved him first, or started it by insulting him, or insulting his family, or even insulting you! It’s understandable. Your son should’ve known better, but it still doesn’t merit detention. Boys will be boys, after all.